The story of a powerful male leader who sleeps with a subordinate never fails to titillate the masses. There seems to be a pre-existing template for how this narrative normally plays out, particularly in the media. An innocuous artifact, in Petraeus’s case an email, triggers a chain reaction that quickly unravels, forcing the female lead into role of home-wrecker or lady scorned. The male protagonist often comes across as tragically flawed or an egomaniac who lives by his own rules. Since an extra-marital affair in our current social context translates into an error of judgment, the ending inevitably includes public humiliation and resignation. This narrative needs to change.
In a controversial and lengthy Reddit thread, rapists finally had a chance to explain why they did what they did. The question posed which elicited a massive response was: “Reddit’s had a few threads about sexual assault victims, but are there redditors from the other side of the story? What were your motivations? Do you regret it?”
A study conducted by researchers from the University of Wisconsin at Eau Claire revealed that men are more sexually interested in their female friends than vice-versa. This attraction could present difficulties in their friendship. Lead researcher April Bleske-Rechek observes: “I think men and women do want to be friends, they do want to engage in platonic friendships. But the data I’ve been collecting suggests that attractions can get in the way.”
If you want to advance your career, do you choose that exorbitantly priced executive MBA or an expensive wardrobe and a personal trainer? The latter option sounds ludicrous unless you’ve been following the media storm over a new book called “Honey Money: The Power of Erotic Capital” by Catherine Hakim, a sociologist at the London School of Economics.
Do you think your boss is trying to extract sexual favors from you? Steven Mintz, the Ethics Sage, answers your questions about sexual harrasment in the workplace.
The conversation about choosing not to have children has moved from isolated listservs into the national press. The national debate has generated some real support for childfree people and even for their reasons not to have children, such as the study discussed in The New York Times Magazine showing that childfree people are generally happier than parents.
Despite finding the ideal surrogate, I kept feeling oppressed by the time that elapsed throughout this baby-making process. My years of struggling left me feeling like a failure. I would literally bargain with the fetus every time I visited the bathroom. “Be good,” I’d beg “and I promise you I’ll be a great mom.”
The myth, of course, is that men avoid marriage because of commitment issues. Let me state this clearly for the record: bollocks. Men easily commit – just look at the long suffering male fans of famously bad sports teams like the Chicago Cubs or the LA Clippers. We’ve stood by our losing side for years without getting a thing in return. That’s commitment.