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Not too long ago, I worked at a company where I became friends with my co-worker, Shannon. Shannon started dating another co-worker Craig. They both worked in different departments and different buildings. They dated for about 2 ½ years and are now married with a little girl. That’s a picture perfect story, isn’t it? But we all know that’s not always how things go.
Dating in the workplace can often turn out to be a very sticky, delicate situation. After all, most of us spend eight plus hours a day in the same place. But if you think there is a co-worker that just may be “the one” for you, here are some things to think about:
What’s the Policy?
Be aware of what your companies’ policies are. Some companies have a very strict no dating within the company rule that could potentially get you into trouble. Also, ask yourself, “Is this a conflict of interest?” What may seem innocent to you might be a direct violation. It goes without say that getting involved with the person who signs your paycheck vs Brian from accounting are two totally different situations. Don’t try it, sneak around and think no one will find out or notice, because they ultimately will.
On the job it’s best to keep your personal business to yourself. Things often get distorted and since you both work in the same place, people will and do talk. Be honest and forth coming about the situation. This should keep the office gossip about you and your dating situation to a minimum.
Save the PDA
Always keep your work environment as professional as possible. No one wants to see you making out in the parking lot on your lunch break. And you don’t want to have that “deer caught in headlights” look on your face when you get caught so resist temptation while at work.
Missing is Good
When dating what keeps things fresh is that you can’t wait to see that other person, right? You think about them and you miss them throughout the day. But if you drive to work together, see each other at the copy machine, go to lunch together and then go home together…well you get the point. Things can quickly become stale. Good relationships thrive on having that time apart.
If it doesn’t work out?
Things may go fine for a while, but what if it doesn’t work out? You have to see him at the copy machine, in the lunch room and at meetings. Will you be able to face him every day? It could be a bit overwhelming if you work in a close quarters. If things fall apart, try to remain friends.
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